Monday Morning Coffee- What Happens When you lose trust in someone, or something?
There are some things that all of us need in our lives, to stay balanced, and one of them in trust! If we’re married, we need to be able to trust our partner in more ways than one. We need to trust that they not only love us enough to be there through thick and thin, but also in other ways. Showing respect for us, and knowing that although we might disagree at times, that it’s OK. We are still there, we care, and we want to trust that we can disagree and our relationship is stronger than that.
We all want to trust teenage children, if we have them. As kids enter the teen years they venture out more into the community. Friends become more important and parents find themselves needing to trust them more. But what happens when you lose trust? What happens when you catch them lying to you and doing things that they know they’re not supposed to do? Yes, when a teen loses your trust it can make life much more difficult for everyone.
This past week I have seen several people talking about losing trust, and it really got me to thinking. Many of us write online, on different platforms, and we have to have a certain level of trust. I want to know that when I write this post, and hit publish that it will indeed be published. I need to know that there isn’t some hidden code on my site that will change what I say, or worse have parts disappear. I need anyone reading my disclosures, or a TOS if I had one, to know that they aren’t empty words, that I will indeed follow them. Trust. As a writer, I need readers to trust what I say. But again, what happens when you lose that trust?
Once trust is lost, it’s very hard to get it back. Actions speak louder than words. Personally, it takes me a long time to trust someone again, if ever. It’s not just that we lose trust, we also lose a part of our security. and respect for the other person, or place. What used to be a good feeling can turn quite ugly as people vent their frustrations, or share in their lose. Especially now, with the internet. What used to be private is now shared with thousands of people online. And let’s not forget that every single one of us internalizes things differently. Our own experiences in life help manifest the way we interpret, and react to a loss of trust. We want to be able to trust, but trust is earned. It takes time to build it, and a lot longer to regain it once it’s lost.
I want to leave you with 2 quotes, and as you go about your week, think of your own ideas about what happens when you lose trust.
“The trust of the innocent is the liar’s most useful tool.” Stephen King
This other quote is one that speaks to me. It is a good way to build, and maintain relationships whether online ones, or offline ones.
“Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our own interests, but also the interests of others.”
Peter Farquharson –
Trust is a 2 way street, and it can never sustain itself if only one person is doing the trusting. If you feel like it, go ahead and leave a comment here and share your ideas with us. As we finish our morning coffee and prepare for the week, think about trust, and how it affects you.
Have a good week!